26. Mar, 2018

Planting Seeds

You know that saying about being able to lead a horse to water but not being able to make him drink? Yup... that's what I'm feeling a lot of at the moment. We lead by example, we speak gently and still it seems that nothing short of a universal slap upside the head will be enough to make some people open their eyes. 

So here's the thing... we could all just give up or we could have faith that we plant seeds which will one day bloom. 

Here's my seed... 

When you're tempted to tell the world of social media how completely crap your life is and how people constantly hurt you, take a step back and ask yourself what role you play in this drama. Do you give what you would like to receive or do you give what people need (within reason)? Do you become so mired in your negativity that nobody can bear to be around you? Do you listen generously or do you listen only to respond? And exactly what type of attention are you seeking when you post your unhappiness on Facebook?

We're living in a world where we measure our value by the actions of others or the support we get from many. We ignore truth because it is unpleasant and we push our own agendas because we want to feel that we are important. 

We're often told that the way we love ourselves is how we teach other people to love us. Let me make this clear... If you want to be loved authentically then you need to love yourself with so much depth that you no longer need approval, sympathy or support. These things become sweet but unnecessary for our spiritual survival. Loving yourself doesn't just happen either. Just like everything else, it's a conscious choice. 

And when we love ourselves deeply and openly then we suddenly find that things that would have hurt us before are no longer important... merely amusing. When we love ourselves completely, we no longer tolerate a "poor me" attitude or attention seeking because we know that we have overcome the need for that type of attention. 

Next time you're tempted to lash out on Facebook, first take a few minutes to take an objective look at your behaviour and what it is a symptom of. I'm hoping that by doing this we'll all fall a little bit more in love with our quirky, unique selves.