I'm sitting in the grip of winter looking out the window at the trees bending in front of the wind and the hundred different shades of brown that make up July in Johannesburg. It's an in between space in the year. It's a time when you have all sorts of things you want to do but it's not quite time yet.
Our lives are like that too, aren't they. We have times of production and times of waiting. Waiting and planning and being patient. And dear gods! The patience part can be really tough.
If we look at our lives in the same way we look at the seasons the patience becomes a bit easier though. Winter is such an essential part of the year. It's a time where nature gets busy deep down preparing for the fertility needed to have seeds planted that will grow into strong plants and a bountiful harvest. It's a time of rest.
Why then do we expect our lives to be any different? Our transition periods are often dark and cold and we wonder if joy and success will ever shine down on us again. What if we saw those periods as essential? What if we used those times to get focused? What if we used that time to rest so we could give our next project or phase complete, crazy, creative energy?
Instead we see transitions as a time of an almost death within ourselves. It isn't a time of death at all - it's a time of gathering, of quickening. It's a time when we ready ourselves to burst forward with renewed energy.
Whether we're in between jobs, in between relationships, in between anything, it's so important to start seeing and feeling what it is we want next. This is the time to decide what is worthwhile, what we want more of and what we want less of. This is the time to get clear.
And once we're clear on what should be manifested then we can start planting the seeds instead of spraying the entire field of our lives and hoping something worthwhile grows.
So take some quiet time and visualise what your happiest life would look like. Be specific. And then start planting... not everything sprouts overnight. Not everything is instant. But the most beautiful, most valuable things in our lives are not the ones that come quickly and easily so patience is a skill worth cultivating.