19. Jul, 2018

Attention seeking

Am I the only one who doesn't respond to the "poor me" posts on Facebook? Does it mean I don't care about people and their problems? Trust me, I care! Probably way too much.

Here's my thinking though... If you're posting memes on Facebook about how nobody loves you then you don't want help, you want sympathy. And it doesn't matter how many times you comment that you do in fact care, the posts will keep on coming. You're just feeding the beast.

Looking for attention (again I'm going to call a spade a shovel) on Facebook is more often than not coupled with an inability to take responsibility for the situation you're in. And you know what? I've done it too. I haven't done it for a long time, but I have done it. So I'm talking from experience. 

When you're posting and getting attention it allows you a distraction from the very real work you need to be doing to change your situation. It allows you to wallow in the sadness and it makes the situation seem a thousand times worse. 

And that's okay too... if you're not interested in personal growth. 

We are not the sum of our experiences. We are the sum of how we have responded to our experiences. There's nothing wrong with asking for help. There's nothing wrong with having a bad day. There's nothing wrong with mental illness. None of these things make us inherently weak. What really makes us strong though, is standing up, dusting ourselves off and fighting to get further than we were yesterday. That takes time though... 

Once again, we have a choice. Post about it on Facebook and get sympathy or take action and get better...