23. Oct, 2018

Instant gratification

I'm going to go out on a limb and say that I'm not the only instant gratification junkie out there. Being damn impatient is one of the reasons I've given myself my entire life for not doing the things that take a bit of effort - like studying further or going on a long term eating plan. Let's face it, it would be far nicer if I could eat a salad tonight and wake up looking like a supermodel tomorrow. 

So what's the problem? Do I have a short attention span? Do I lack motivation? Passion? I can safely rule those out. My ex husband used to joke that I don't have hobbies, I have latest obsessions. Sure, I get bored easily. Studying and learning new things isn't boring though. 

As with all problems, if you want to find the cause you need to go right to the heart of it, don't you? So if I do heart surgery on this particular problem it's not boredom or lack of motivation. If I apply it directly to studying and dieting (two random examples) it becomes clear that until such time as the goal is reached, I'm not quite good enough. 

It comes from a childhood of being rewarded only for winning. It takes all the joy out of the process. We become so focused on the goal that we forget that the point is not just the goal but the process. The process is where all the magic happens. That piece of paper hanging on your wall means nothing without the knowledge you gained before you got it. And yet that piece of paper holds all the importance for us. 

This is part of my story. It doesn't necessarily apply to everyone. We all have our hearts of matters and they're all different. Maybe though, you can take a lesson from me and start relishing the process as much as you relish the achievement. If nothing else, it's going to make the day to day, so-called mundane life a whole lot more meaningful. And meaning is what we're after, isn't it?