3. Jan, 2019

Journey from sadness

It's a brand new year and I hope that somewhere in your list of new year's resolutions you've included being a little bit kinder to yourself. There are so many things I want to talk about here that you can probably expect a week's worth of posts to come thick and fast. But let's prioritise. 

So the silly season has come and gone and many of us have been left with holes in our hearts from things said or events that took place or just from the general loneliness that time of year causes in those of us who have experienced any type of loss. 

I want you to understand very clearly that no matter how deep the hole is or how completely momentous the sadness feels, there will come a time eventually when it doesn't hurt so much or where you can even look back at it objectively. It's not a quick fix. I'm not going to treat you as though you're stupid and tell you that it is. You might have rough nights and weepy days but eventually you'll get through. It's as guaranteed as death and taxes. 

Of course, there's a bit of a twist to this. You have to choose how you get through it. You have to choose what type of person it shapes. And nobody can make that choice for you because you are the one who has to live with that new you. 

So while you sit in that deep dark hole please remember two things. Don't judge yourself or beat yourself up. You're valuable just by being who you are and you don't deserve to be hurt even though it is sometimes unavoidable. And secondly, if you need help, reach out to me. I've sat in that hole, I have a map to get out of it and I will happily take your hand and journey to the light with you.