10. Jul, 2019

Walking away from the drama

There comes a time when you have to walk away... from people, from relationships, from situations. I believe the measure of a man or a woman is not in walking away but in how they do it.

Have you noticed how many people tell you that they can't bear drama? And yet, they tend to veer onto the dramatic side of things when it comes time to accept that walking away is the thing to do. There's seldom a calm acceptance of things and a gradual distancing. It usually seems more like a volcanic eruption.

I'll tell you a secret though... I've reached an age or a stage in my life where drama is intolerable for me. I've seen enough of it that I don't want to see any more. I've learned that those people who seem to always be in the midst of drama are the ones who generate it in the first place. Maybe I'm judgemental but I've learned the hard way that most people don't want to be a part of your peace unless they have a peaceful core themselves.

It's an exercise in observation really and it comes down to identifying the common denominator in situations. We all have been in the thick of moments that were unpleasant. I'm hoping that most of us don't experience unpleasant moments with everyone we come into contact with at some stage. You see, that's the part that I find fascinating. If you take the time to listen to a person's stories, you'll notice that some people are able to balance the good with the bad. Others, on the other hand, will have a story for every person they've met that involves conflict, strife and heartache. Those are the people you should probably pay attention to because very soon, you might find yourself wrapped up in one of those tales that they tell so readily.

Life lesson... you cannot love someone out of their own drama. They need to decide to change the way their stories play out. You can choose to love them until they do and you can choose to love them from a distance until they do. It's about deciding how much your own peace is worth to you.