Sometimes the advice our mothers give us is priceless... not always... but there are very often gems that are worth carrying and following for the rest of our lives. My mother, as much as I hate to admit it, was an excellent judge of character and had no problem walking away from an interaction and making a snap judgement. I believe that everybody deserves a chance and I'm damned if I'm going to make snap judgements that could turn out to be wrong. As always though, there's a middle road... a scenic route between the two extremes. I'm learning to enjoy that scenic route.
I know this for certain. I value sincerity over effusiveness. While I understand how important it is to be kind and loving in a world that too often forgets that concept, I also understand that the love shouldn't be fake. It's so important to reach out and touch lives but it's even more important to do so with no hidden agenda.
Unfortunately we're surrounded by people who lay it on thick and, in doing so, cover up the fact that their interactions and words are far from genuine. And just maybe we fall for it because we are humans and we want to be loved.
I'm at a point in my life where I take pretty words with a pinch of salt and watch the ensuing actions instead. I've learned the hard way that even though people may tell you they love you, sometimes those words mean very little to them. I watch for people who gush too easily and I treasure the people who think before they speak and consider implications before they act.
A person who is sincere isn't afraid to step into their authenticity and to speak their truth and those are the people I want to surround myself with... not the ones who stroke my ego on a temporary basis. Who is it that you want in your circle?